All tagged chronic pain

6 Things to Know After Your Engagement Ends (Especially if you have chronic illness)

“Have enough courage to trust Love one more time. And always one more time.” — Maya Angelou

(Thank you to Kelly from Little Blue Canoe for sending me this quote)

ICYMI – Around 10 days ago, my engagement ended. As did my relationship. It’s been heart breaking, overwhelming, shocking and sad. But, in the short time I have had to digest this life-altering change, there are a number of lessons I have learned. Some I already knew, but this unfortunate decision made my belief in them stronger. Others, wow — Never did I think they would be a part of my story. Most, I can relate to my battle with chronic illness for I always knew it was making me a more resilient, loving and grateful person.

A Look at Migraine Through the Stages of Grief

“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” — Anne Roiphe

It was the “Why me?”, “Please make it stop.”, “I can’t handle this” feelings that had me stuck in cycles of grief every time I had a migraine. A year ago, I would still be going through these ups and downs every. single. migraine. Not now.

Now, I have looked beyond the migraine, journal-ed my way through each stage of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally made it through to the final stage — acceptance.

My 3 Biggest Migraine Mistakes This Year and How I’m Going to Fix Them for 2018

Hello #migraineseason.

You know the saying “Keep your friends close but your enemies closer?” Well, my health invaders, migraines, anxiety and depression, and I have become uncomfortably close again this fall. You may have noticed my blogs in November have been less frequent and the posts a little shorter. This is simply because fall is my worst time of year for migraines.

For the past three years, I’ve lived in a constant state of migraine for most of October, November and December. The first year I coined, “Death December” and last year became “Fuck All Fall”. This year’s theme? “Why didn’t I see this coming?”

Adding to the clichés, it was easy for me to think “third times the charm” and this #migraineseason would be smooth sailing.

25 Quotes That Inspire Me to be Kind to Myself through Chronic Illness

“Kindness is a gift everyone can afford to give.” — unknown

As a chronic illness sufferer, you are bound to have bad days.

To cope, I’ve learned acceptance, found ways to reduce anxiety and taken time out for my health.

In essence, I’ve learned to be kinder to myself — to show myself love in the moments when I feel like I don’t deserve it.

But, it’s on those “bad days” that it takes extra effort.  Today, on World Kindness Day, I wanted to take the time to say it’s just as important to be kind to yourself as it is to be kind to others.

Kindness starts with YOU.

Why it’s ok to take time out for your health (And why you should)

It all became too much.

Three years ago, almost exactly, I made a radical decision in my life.

It was time to focus on my health.

The decision didn’t come easily. I had a dream job, loved the people I worked with, was using the skills I attended university for and had just started a wonderful new relationship. Yet, my health was robbing me from the joy of experiencing it all.

I was in a constant cycle of migraines and anxiety. I wasn’t being a fair co-worker — my sick leaves put other people under more pressure. Adding on additional responsibility at work made me feel unworthy and useless instead of valued and respected because I was constantly worried I wasn’t doing a good enough job due to my health. 

Accepting Chronic Illness: A Self-Reflection Worksheet

"You think you know ... but you have no idea."
– MTV’s Diary (2001-2014)

Last week’s post on acceptance had me thinking more deeply about what chronic illness looks like from an outsider’s perspective — even to another chronic illness warrior. Case in point: My reaction to a friend saying I cope well. It was a total shocker. I had NO idea I was being seen as a person with a chronic illness who wore rose-coloured glasses.

How Acceptance Taught Me to Cope with Chronic Illness

“How do you cope so well?”

Last week, I was taken aback when a close friend of mine texted me these words. My first thoughts were, “Me? Cope? What? I don’t do that!” My mouth gaped open.

Coping with chronic illness isn’t something that has come naturally to me. It was hard for me to look at my chronic illnesses from an outsider’s perspective and see what she was seeing. After a few moments of reflection, I worked up the courage to write her back. This is what I said:

8 Reasons I’m Thankful I HAVE a Chronic Illness

I know what you’re thinking, “How can someone be thankful they’re sick?”

It’s because when you have a chronic illness, you are forced to learn a lot — about a lot of different things. Some days I feel like I’m in school 24/7. From understanding myself, to navigating the medical system and working through life lessons — it’s all been beneficial to me. The lessons I have learned will apply to life when hopefully one day chronic illness isn’t the first thing I think of when I wake up in the morning. They have made me stronger and more resilient, and will help carry me through any tough situation life might throw at me. So for that, I am thankful I have chronic migraine, depression and anxiety. They have made me who I am today.